Mom Dating: The Nightmare is Over (at least for me)

You’ve heard it before and you’re about to hear it again: Mom dating is absolute torture. Some moms get lucky within a few months of motherhood and fit right in with other moms. Then you have the other moms, like me, who spend a year or more trying to find the right additions to their mom tribe.

There is so much that goes into finding the perfect tribe and quite frankly, it stresses me the heck out. At least… it did. Over the last couple of months I felt myself getting closer and connecting with a few moms who just sort of “got” me. It wasn’t until a little bit ago that I realized I actually found my mom tribe. After 17 months of feeling like an outsider, I could finally say I didn’t feel alone anymore and WOW it felt good.

It’s hard when you first become a parent. You can do everything right; joining local playgroups on Facebook or other media platforms or attending mommy and me classes, but the problem I found myself running into the most was the significant age difference between our little ones. While most kids around us were at least 3 years old, my daughter was just barely a year. She wanted to play with the big kids but they were too fast for her.

It took a little while, but eventually we started meeting more moms of little ones closer to my daughter’s age. I didn’t realize it then, but these moms would eventually become the main characters in the chapter when I finally form my mom tribe.

By no means are we close enough to be considered “besties” (at least not yet), but whether they realize it or not these few ladies have completely changed my life. I no longer feel like an outcast. I no longer feel like nobody can relate to me. I feel empowered again.

How long did it take you to find your mom tribe? Were you a lucky duck and found your ladies pretty quick? Or were you more like me and struggled a bit? I want to know!

Josie Schreiber

Josie Schreiber

I'm a mom first and a writer second. I wear a lot of hats; mom, writer, part-time toy expert, full-time student, mobile library founder, and ugly sweater connoisseur. Are you a parent and have a topic you want discussed? Shoot me an email and I'd be more than happy to write my take on it. instagram: momillennial